Judgy Spirituality Can go Die in a Dark Hole

Sophie Dalton
2 min readOct 14, 2020

Judging people for not being enlightened enough is NOT an enlightened act.

This includes:

Sober people judging drinkers,

Vegans judging non-vegans,

Fit people judging out of shape people,

Financially strong people judging financially struggling people.

Meditators judging non-meditators.

Judging others for their “bad” habits is just using personal development to stroke your ego, position you as temporarily “better” than someone else,

and perpetuate a self-harming cycle of needing to be perfect before you can truly be loved.

The disgust you might feel at someone else’s habits comes from internalized dis-ease towards parts of yourself you have deemed not good enough.

It’s a fleeting high that leads to a lonely crash.

So every time you judge, you operate from a wound and strengthen the story that you nor anyone else is actually good enough as they are.

This is spiritual violence,

Done in the name of “self improvement”

I catch myself in judgement too,

But when I do, I remind myself that I’m operating from a wound and I shift instead to DISCERNMENT

DISCERNMENT asks: Is this for me? Do I feel truer to who I am when I do this?

Where JUDGEMENT asks: Does this make me better then him/her?

Judgement comes from fear,

Discernment comes from KNOWING.

DISCERNMENT has lead me to…

be vegan,

drink 2–3x/ month,

workout 6x a week,

improve my finances,

date a woman,

cut out sugar,

& generally live life on my own goddamn terms.

These are things that make me feel closer to the divinity within myself (for now, things are always changing),

they do NOT make me better than you.

You and I are the same, no matter how much more or less money we have in our bank accounts/ fitness accounts/ “good habits” accounts.

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Sophie Dalton

Life Coach & Personal Branding Strategist for Women Entrepreneurs